Hello to all my Clarity of Mind Readers!!!!!
I realize that it has been awhile since I last posted and I wanted to let you all know why that is. As you saw from my last post, I was in a bit of a funk over the summer, as I still do not know the reasoning behind it, I took the time to get myself back on track so that I can be stronger than ever. I found clarity again and my oh my is it a wonderful feeling! In taking this time off, I realized many important things that I would like to share with all of you incase you, or anyone that you know is going through something similar at this time.
- There are things that will always be out of your control.
As obvious as this may seem, as humans, we naturally like to have control over what happens in our lives. We dream up ideas about what we want and when we want it and when these dreams don’t become a reality right away, we feel defeated thus beginning the downward spiral. Let me be the one to say, EVERYTHING WILL WORK OUT AS IT IS SUPPOSED TO AND NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU TRY OR HOW MUCH YOU WANT TO, YOU CANNOT CONTROL EVERYTHING THAT WILL HAPPEN. The only thing that you are really in control of is your own actions and how you respond to the actions of those around you. Life is a journey, and a hard one at that. One should never expect easiness always, with this how would one ever grow? Once you understand this phrase for yourself, you will immediately feel a weight lifted off of your shoulders. As a wise person once told me, “Go with the flow” and so far this is deeming to be one amazing experience!
- It is okay to cut out the toxicity in your life
Whether its family or friends or people you follow on social media, if it is causing you pain do not be afraid to separate yourself from this. Do not wonder what they will say or think about you. If they are affecting you negatively then why would their opinion really matter to you anyway? I’ve noticed that when there are negative people in your life, they will try to pour their negativity unto you and not everyone is strong enough to realize this is happening and therefore fall victim to the trap being set. By realizing who these people are, you can begin to separate yourself from them. For example, I notice on Facebook there are a lot of negative and downright cruel people, so when I see this, I simply un-friend them. Sure maybe they were friends of mine in high school but in my life right now, I do not want that kind of negativity being shown to me daily. I choose to be happy and positive with nothing to stop me or drag me down. When cutting these people off, you do not have to do it in an elaborate or cruel way, in fact the quieter you are about it, the easier and better it will be. They don’t need to know that you find them toxic, your absence will make them begin to realize it on their own anyway. At the end of the day, you have to do what’s right for you, no excuses and no apologies needed.
- Smile always!
Ever since I was a child my dad would always tell me to “keep one of these on” as he would point to his face with a big cheesy smile on it. This is a lesson that I never fully understood until recently. When you smile, you physically cannot be sad. Smiles are contagious and once you light up the whole world around you will light up too. As insane as this may sound, even if you have no desire or reason to smile in that moment, do it! You will feel your mood pick up instantly and worries will seem to just float away. Smiling results in positivity, when you are happy, everything seems to go right so why not keep that streak alive? Wake up every morning with a smile on your face and watch how much better your days become… always “keep one of these on”!
- Learn to silence your mind
This is probably the biggest factor that I had to face. I am a constant over thinker and always end up creating situations that weren’t even there in the first place. But I also realized that in overthinking, I was bursting the most negativity that I had inside of me, the most evil thought that I could ever have were starting to come to surface. If you know me at all, you know I am the furthest thing from an evil person and so when this started happening, I had to take a step back and re-evaluate myself. I knew this wasn’t who I was so I had to come up with a strategy to change it. I began meditating, quieting the world around me for sometime so I could come to peace with my thoughts and clear them once and for all. This allowed me to realize that I indeed was creating these situations in my head and that none of them were at all true. I then got back into reading. Most people claim to not have enough time for reading, but by saying this you are basically saying that you don’t have the time to work on yourself, and no matter who you are, everyone needs to work on themselves daily or else we never grow, never learn and most importantly never conquer. If meditation is not for you, just find sometime each day to be with yourself and your thoughts, journaling them and releasing them from the mind will immediately release stress and burdens from your life allowing you to feel instant satisfaction. If you need some good reading suggestions, I have a list ready for you! Get ready to change your life and become the positive person that you know that you are.
- Know that everything will be okay
The last and most important piece of advice I can give you is that bad times never last forever. Everything will work itself out and return to normal, all you need is some clarity and time. Stay patient with yourself, talk yourself through your problems and resolve them for yourself. Everything in life works out the way it should, whether it’s fair or not is irrelevant. You have to be understanding of the now and all of the circumstances that comes with it. EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY AND YOU WILL COME BACK FROM THIS STRONGER THAN EVER, this much I can promise you. Stay positive and watch the positivity come pouring back into your life!
Admitting that you are not okay in the moment is hard to do, it’s even harder to talk about it to those around you and/or strangers, but cleansing yourself of this fact and expressing your thoughts to those around you who care will leave you feeling ever more grateful for the life that you are living. Remember that even when you think you have it bad, there is always someone out there who has it worse, bless your self each and everyday and be thankful that you get to experience another one!